RelationshipKnow what to say to your partner. Before you say it.
Talk it through with a coach that remembers your story. Check a message before you send it. Practice the hard conversation before it's real. Simple, private, and there at 2am.
Free to start · No credit card
Understand it, word it, practice it
Start with any one of them. Each takes only a few minutes, and all three are free to try.
A coach that already knows your story
Describe what happened in your own words. It remembers your partner and your earlier chats, so you never start from zero.
- Specific next steps, not vague comfort
- Spots patterns you might miss, like "you both go quiet after an argument"
- Always there, even at 2am. You can add screenshots or documents for context
Read your message the way they will
Paste a message before you hit send. In a few seconds you see how it may land and get versions you can send as they are.
- Blame, pressure or sarcasm gets pointed out
- 2 or 3 better versions: calmer, more direct, or warmer
- Not stored. We keep only a counter, so we can apply your plan's limit
Say it out loud before it's real
Describe your partner and rehearse with an AI that plays them, pushback included. Then get a short, honest debrief.
- A debrief every time: what went well, what to watch for, what to try next
- Switch roles to hear how your own words might sound to them
- Completely private. It never contacts your real partner
Small tools that help after the chat ends
Each one has a plan label, so you always know what is free and what comes with Pro or Premium.
After a fight
Take a breath with a short calming guide, free for everyone. Pro adds a personal message you can send to reach out, and Premium adds a gentle check-in the next day.
Playbook
The coach suggests one small thing to try. You tell us how it went. Over time you see what really works for you.
Daily check-in and question
One minute a day to notice how things are going. Private, just for you.
Share with your partner
Pick what you want to share and send a link. Your partner doesn't need an account.
Therapist summary
Turn a chat into a one-page summary for your therapist. Yours to download or print. Premium adds a full Therapist pack.
Weekly focus and ideas
One small thing to focus on this week, plus ideas for little gestures and simple dates.
Insights
The patterns the coach notices across your chats, in a short weekly summary.
Talk plan and hard mode
Get a short plan before you practice: an opening line, what to avoid, how they may react. Turn up the pushback in hard mode.
Monthly review and your year
A calm look back at your month, and a page that shows your year so far.
Also included: Dictate with your voiceAdd screenshots and filesSave more than one partner profileChoose Fast or Advanced AI for each chat
We'd rather be useful than exciting
RelationshipAI isn't an AI best friend or a novelty companion app. It has one job: help you think more clearly about your relationship, and give you words that land better than the ones you'd have found on your own. No tricks to keep you chatting longer than you need to. Just a coach that's ready when you are, guided by methods used in real couples therapy, and honest about where its job ends and a professional's begins.
Built by Jonas, after one too many 11pm conversations that would've gone better with a clearer head.
Read our method & sourcesNot a replacement for therapy. Not a generic chatbot either.
RelationshipAI sits in between: easier to reach than a therapist, and more useful for relationships than a general AI assistant.
| RelationshipAI | General AI chatbot | Couples therapy | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Available 24/7 | Yes | Yes | No |
| Remembers your relationship over time | Yes | Depends on the app and settings | Yes |
| Checks a message before you send it | Yes | Only if you ask | No |
| Lets you rehearse the actual conversation | Yes | Only if you prompt it | No |
| Guided by well-known couples methods | Yes | Not by default | Yes |
| Makes a summary you can give a therapist | Yes | Not built in | N/A |
| Wait time to get support | None | None | Days to weeks |
| Cost | €0 to €19.99/mo | Free to €20/mo | €50 to €150/session |
RelationshipAI isn't a substitute for a licensed therapist. It's what's actually available at 11pm on a Tuesday, when you need to think something through before it becomes a bigger conversation.
Start free. Upgrade when it helps.
Free lets you really try all three main tools. Pro takes the limits away. Premium adds the deeper tools for the conversations that matter most.
Free
Free forever · No credit card
Enough to feel the difference. No card required.
- Coach Chat: 8 messages a day, with memory of your chats
- Message check: 3 tries
- Partner Practice: 1 rehearsal (up to 8 messages), with debrief
- After a fight: the calming guide
- Playbook, daily check-in and daily question
- 1 partner profile, 3 screenshots or files, 1 therapist summary
- Advanced AI (our strongest model)
- Unlimited Partner Practice
- Weekly focus, ideas and insights
- Talk plan, monthly review and your year
Best value
For ongoing support
Pro
Billed €69.99 yearly · save 42%
No daily limit, and our stronger AI for Partner Practice. About the price of a coffee a week.
- Everything in Free, plus:
- 1,000 AI messages a month across all tools, no daily limit
- Partner Practice: unlimited rehearsals with anyone: partner, ex, parent, boss
- Message check: 10 a day, with two rewrites each
- After a fight: a personal message to reach out with, 3 a month
- Weekly focus, 3 ideas and weekly insights
- Advanced Coach Chat: 80 messages a month on our most advanced AI
- Up to 5 partner profiles, unlimited files, unlimited therapist summaries
- Message check and After a fight without limits
- Talk plan and hard mode
- Monthly review and your year
- Therapist pack and Playbook analysis
For the deepest work
Premium
Billed €149.99 yearly · save 37%
Deeper tools for the conversations that matter most, on our most advanced AI.
- Everything in Pro, plus:
- 1,500 AI messages a month and unlimited partner profiles
- Advanced AI for up to 500 messages a month across your tools. You choose per chat
- Message check and After a fight: no limit, tailored to your partner, with a next-day check-in
- Talk plan before you practice, and hard mode
- Monthly review and your year
- Therapist pack and Playbook analysis
- Weekly focus with why and when, 5 tailored ideas, priority support
Compare every feature
| Free | Pro | Premium | |
|---|---|---|---|
| AI messages | 8 a day | 1,000 a month | 1,500 a month |
| Advanced AI (our strongest model) | Not included | 80 in Coach, 200 in Practice, per month | 500 a month, you choose per chat |
| Coach Chat with memory | Included | Included | Included |
| Message check | 3 tries | 10 a day | No limit (fair use), tailored |
| Partner Practice | 1 rehearsal (8 messages) | Unlimited | Unlimited |
| Partner profiles | 1 | 5 | Unlimited |
| Screenshots and files | 3 in total | Unlimited | Unlimited |
| After a fight | Calming guide | 3 messages a month | No limit, with next-day check-in |
| Playbook | One at a time | Several at once | Plus analysis |
| Weekly focus and ideas | Not included | Focus and 3 ideas | Focus with why/when, 5 tailored ideas |
| Weekly insights | Not included | Included | Included |
| Daily check-in and question | Included | Included | Included |
| Share with your partner | Included | Included | Included |
| Therapist summary | 1 export | Unlimited | Unlimited, plus Therapist pack |
| Talk plan and hard mode | Not included | Not included | Included |
| Monthly review and your year | Not included | Not included | Included |
| Support | Priority email |
Prices in EUR. Cancel or switch anytime. Paid plans include fair-use limits (1,000 AI messages a month on Pro, 1,500 on Premium) that keep the service fast for everyone.
What you tell it stays yours
Passwords, properly hashed
Hashed with bcrypt, never stored in plain text, ever.
Private by default
Only you can see your conversations in your account. We don't read them as a routine.
Never sold, never used for ads
We don't sell your conversations or use them for advertising. Our AI provider processes them only to write your replies.
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No contracts, no retention calls. Manage or cancel anytime from your account page.
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@relationshipai_Still have questions?
What is RelationshipAI?
It's a private AI relationship coach. You can talk things through in Coach Chat, check a message before you send it with Message check, and practice a hard conversation in Partner Practice. It draws on methods used in real couples therapy, such as the Gottman Method, attachment theory and Nonviolent Communication. RelationshipAI is not affiliated with the Gottman Institute or any of these organizations.
Is RelationshipAI free?
Yes. There is a Free plan that never expires: 8 Coach Chat messages a day, 3 Message checks, one Partner Practice rehearsal (up to 8 messages) with a debrief, the calming guide for after a fight, a Playbook, and a daily check-in. Upgrade to Pro or Premium only if you want more room. No card is needed to start.
What is Partner Practice? Is it talking to my real partner?
No, it never contacts your real partner. You describe their personality, and the AI plays them as a private rehearsal, including realistic pushback. After each rehearsal you get a short debrief: what went well, what to watch for, and one thing to try next. Nothing you practice is shared with anyone.
What is After a fight?
A short guide for the first hour after an argument. It helps you calm down first, then (on Pro and Premium) writes a short message you can send to reach out. Premium messages are tailored to your partner and you get a gentle check-in the next day.
What is the Playbook?
When the coach suggests something small to try, such as a sentence to say or a question to ask, you can tap "I'll try it". A couple of days later we ask how it went. Over time you get a private list of what worked for you and what didn't, so the advice stops being generic. Only you can see it.
Can I share things with my partner?
Only if you choose to. You pick specific things, like one chat or a summary, and send your partner a link. They don't need an account. Everything else stays private to you.
Is RelationshipAI a replacement for therapy?
No. It's a self-improvement tool for support between therapy sessions, or when therapy isn't easy to get. For serious problems, abuse, or a crisis, we always recommend contacting a professional.
Does it work for any kind of relationship?
Yes. Dating, long-term, married, long-distance, or non-monogamous. The coaching adapts to what you tell it about your situation instead of following a fixed script.
What if my partner doesn't want to use it?
That's fine. It works even if you're the only one using it. Most change in a relationship starts with one person showing up differently, and Partner Practice lets you prepare for real conversations on your own.
Are my conversations private?
Yes. Only you can see your conversations when you're logged in. We never sell them or use them for ads. To write your replies they are processed by our AI provider (OpenAI), which doesn't train its models on them under its API terms. Texts you paste into Message check and After a fight are not stored.
What happens when I reach a Free plan limit?
Coach Chat's 8 daily messages reset every day, and nothing is lost. Partner Practice is one rehearsal of up to 8 messages with a debrief (it doesn't use your daily Coach messages), Message check gives 3 tries, and you can add 3 screenshots or files in total. You can still read everything you already have. To keep going, upgrade to Pro.
What's the difference between Pro and Premium?
Pro takes the Free limits away: up to 1,000 AI messages a month with no daily limit, unlimited Partner Practice on our stronger AI, up to 5 partner profiles, unlimited files, Message check (10 a day), a personal After a fight message (3 a month), weekly focus, ideas and insights, and 80 Advanced Coach Chat messages a month. Premium includes everything in Pro with up to 1,500 AI messages a month, and adds the deeper tools: Advanced AI in Coach Chat, a monthly review, a short Talk plan before each rehearsal, Message check and After a fight with no limit and tailored to you, your year so far, hard mode with a readiness score, a Therapist pack, Playbook analysis, unlimited partner profiles, and priority support.
Can I cancel anytime?
Yes. No contract, no hidden conditions. Cancel or switch plans anytime from your account page and you keep access until the end of your billing period. Payments are not refundable, except where the law gives you a right to a refund.
What AI does it use?
Free uses a fast, efficient OpenAI model with a prompt made for relationship coaching. Paid plans include a monthly amount of messages on our most advanced model: 200 Partner Practice messages and 80 Coach Chat messages on Pro, and 500 messages on Premium (Coach Chat, Partner Practice, Message check and After a fight). After that we switch you to the fast model until the 1st, so you're never blocked. In every chat you can also choose Fast or Advanced yourself, for example to save your Advanced messages for the conversations that matter most.
Is there a mobile app?
Not yet. RelationshipAI runs in your browser and works well on a phone in the meantime.
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